embrace y/our complexity: be wrong
Be wrong . It seemed best to rip off the bandaid with this one . I think we’re headed into counter-intuitive territory here, as we continue the journey into embracing y/our complexity , waving the banner of ‘Be wrong’. Are you up for it?
I’ve reserved us a spot by the fireplace (yes, imaginary, you will not leave your living room) along with a slightly spicy feast of comfort food (maybe we can coordinate a menu — nothing fancy, but I just made myself hungry).
Be wrong.
Not just be ok with it. This isn’t about humility or generosity , this conversation is about embracing and fully expressing your complexity , while I and she and he and they express theirs, which means there will be twists and turns, construction zones and traffic on the way, as we make our way toward and away from each other in an unsynchronized dance number.
It could be fun actually. Like improv. Heh - actually, it is improv.
Life is improv.
The easier “being wrong” is for you (the faster you can release your viewpoint), the quicker you can adapt to changing circumstances. Adapting allows you to know and name current needs and capacity, to be in relationship in real time, as opposed to any cycle of wishing and/or resenting what others do or don’t give you.
Sometimes there isn’t one definitive truth. (My favorite situations).
Sometimes there is one and you can’t see it. (My least favorite. Least.)
Just at least consider that the place where you are wrong might be the most fertile ground for connecting with and receiving others. —adrienne maree brown, Emergent Strategy, p.94
Connecting with and receiving others . Interdependence. We’re headed in the right direction! Even if we’re being wrong.
embrace y/our complexity: be wrong is the second in a series of four living room picnics, where we’ll consider iteration, specifically these repetitive motions that lead us toward, and embody, interdependence :
As always there’s nothing to prepare. I’ll provide our discussion prompts over the weekend.
It doesn’t matter if you attended the previous picnic.
credit & gratitude
The inspiration for this picnic, and source of the quote above, as well as the four repetitive motions leading toward interdependence is Emergent Strategy , by adrienne maree brown, pp.93-96). Can’t recommend this book enough!
What do you think? Is this sounding like your kind of conversation space?
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