This week has slowed down for me, finally…my calendar is still covered with places I need to show up in, but also I’ve had conversation dates with friends I haven’t spoken to in a while, where we just wanderingly talked about whatever came up. I don’t recall where we started, but someone went first and the other followed. And even with my chronic difficulty with goodbyes, we kept to the scheduled time. We didn’t cover everything since last time. It was really nice to connect.
I don’t know what it was like for them, but inside me, I was aware of slowness guiding us, like it was gently holding my hand and gave it the nicest, slightest love-squeeze if some part of me started to doubt that this was exactly where I needed to be.
you don’t need to make a point of catching up. you don’t need to run a gauntlet to connect. you can just show up and be where you are.
For me, at one point, that meant tearing up because we “stopped by” the park being demolished and I can’t describe it without my heartbreaking open. We also stopped by passion projects and upcoming travel plans, and recent family visits, and projects that may not work out… Everywhere we went, it was warm, unhurried, like home.
For the last living room picnic of the season, I’d like to honor where you are in your life journey, to be guided by slowness and this poignant-comforting song from my teens that I can’t get out of my head, and just hang out together. Wherever that is for you. Whatever you’re feeling, however much of it you do or don’t want to bring into the room, that’s fine, there, let’s meet there.
As always, there is nothing to prepare.
And just because I’m on the verge of tears lately (and may still be when we meet to picnic), that doesn’t mean that joy, laughter, hope aren’t at home, too. It’s always a mix. That’s why these gatherings mean so much to me. On our own, the world can shrink-wrap around us, and feel so much smaller than it actually is, move much faster than it needs to —to get to where?
This is for you even if you don’t quite know what you need next.
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